Owen said
My husband I got married this past October and upon getting married we bought a “Fixer Upper” house. We decided to take our honeymoon after the house was finished. Our house will be finished this April and I started to plan the trip. We have no credit card debt or house fixing expenses. We do have one car that needs to be paid off and his student loans. I think that these are normal expenses and we are doing well. He insistes that before we take a trip we need to be completely DEBT FREE (except for the house loan) and pay for the Honey Moon in cash only if our savings is built up to twice what the honeymoon costs…I’m not saying this is a bad idea but I feel like I NEED a honeymoon! I have spend the past year planning a wedding and been immersed in fixing an entire house. I suggested that when we finish the house we save IMMEDIATELY pay for the trip in cash and THEN pay the other loans when we get back.Am I wrong in wanting to take this trip so soon?

Aaron said
Please appreciate the fact that you married a man who is fiscally responsible. However, I hope that he can likewise appreciate the fact that he married a woman who maintains a good sense of perspective. Your idea is totally reasonable and sensible. It's at times like these that I hope your man has sense enough to bend.

Daniel said
I don't think there is any absolutely right way or wrong way of doing it. It depends on whether short term pleasure is more important for you to have than to avoid long term pain, which becomes even longer as the interest accumulates on your debts.It's the kind of decision spouses with differing views need to compromise on, because both are partly right. But it sounds to me like you've already compromised with your husband once, when you've agreed to delay your honeymoon vacation in favor of finishing the house. And to be fair, now it's his turn to compromise with you and let you have the vacation you've been looking forward to.If he has his way with you every time, then this kind of marriage cannot be happy in the long run.

Aidan said
Did you discuss this BEFORE getting married?...Apparently your husband is more concerned about not racking up debt....I think you both are in a good place as far as finances are concerned....I can understand how your husband feels...but I also see your point...being that you have little debt....I think I will have to side with you on this..

Justin said
NO you deserve this trip. It probably would have been best to take it right after the wedding. You both deeserve to take this time to be with eachother

Christopher said
My husband tries to control our finances too. Pay off debt and save our asses off. We haven't had a vacation since 2002. I adjusted to not taking a vacation. We have two kids too ages 10 and 8. They've only had one vacation in their life.When you think about it, he's right. You can get into more debt really quickly. Take a small out of town trip, you get just the same satisfaction as a bigger trip.

bungamauliddya said
Turn out the lights the party/honeymoon is over.. and to answer your ? he is right...

cairescullen said
building up debts isnt a good idea, but him wanting to be completely debt free is a really unlikely dream. paying off student loans takes years, but if he pays them regularly then he should be fine paying them off right away is impossible. so unless you are willing to wait a couple of years then it doesnt appear like he is taking the marriage seriously.

Bryan said
It sounds like he will find some excuse to put off your honeymoon until forever. I'm just wondering what is his reasoning behind waiting. Is he scared of flying? Is he afraid of traveling? You should just explain to him how important it is for you to de-stress by taking at least a week away from normal life. Sometimes you just have to let loose and not worry about the debt that is incurred.

Antonio said
so do a mini honeymoon like a nice bed and breakfast gettaway for a weekend, or stay in a nice lake house and relax. You don't need to do some major foreign excursion right now if all you need is a break. Save up and do the big fun when he's more comfortable to spend it. There are ways to have a honeymoon thats cozy and nice without blowing thousands.

Luis said
When my husband and I got married we decided to forgo a honeymoon because of my children from a previous marriage -- we didn't want the turmoil of the wedding and our absence to be on the girls at the same time. So we said "next year" -- well next year turned into 8 years (more babies arrived, new house to care for, life in general) and we finally took that honeymoon after 7 years. It was great! I think your husband is very fiscally responsible - and taking a vacation on credit is a bad, bad idea! By the time you pay it off that vacation would end up costing you far more than you can imagine. Maybe you can come to a compromise - and set up a vacation fund where X amount goes into a seperate accound for a vacation and you go when that account gets up to the right amount - meanwhile you are still able to pay for the other loans.Trust me - debt free living is far more important that a week on vacation!

Noah said
No, I don't think you are wrong. Especially considering most people take their honeymoons immediately after they are married. I say take the trip and enjoy yourselves. It isn't like you can't pay your bills and take the trip. As long as your are both financially responsible and don't let your debt pile up or try to live beyond your means then all should be fine. You both should have a savings, but remember that if, God forbid, something was to happen to one or both of you the saving is meaningless. However, time spent together isn't.Best of luck!!!

Brandon said
You are right. Given your debt situation a reasonable honeymoon should not be a problem.The bigger issue is this sounds like it is going to be an ongoing issue if he is this conservative with the money and you are not. You better have some dialog on this sooner rather than later or it will keep happening....lots more of major expenses in front of you.

Blake said
Sounds like the Honeymoon is over!

Christopher said
No, vacation is a break and a refresher away from all the crap of everyday life. You need one.

tominyan said
No you are not wrong to want the trip. The stress of re-doing the house was great. You need a break to rediscover your love and passion and make plans for the future.If you continue to say we are not going to do this until we are debt free you will miss out on a lot of great things in life. Don't put off living, live now and worry about your debt as you go through life.Good Luck

Jose said
If he doesn't feel like you're financially stable enough to take your trip, don't push it. Financial problems will cause more stress in your marriage than you ever imagined. Even though a little extra debt won't bother you, it may really bother him and get him stressed. In April, you will already be six months into your marriage. At that point, it's really not going to matter if you take it then or wait another year...the newness is gone. If you need a getaway, plan a smaller trip to a lake, amusement park, etc. Just don't push your husband into doing something he's not comfortable with.